Found My Voice at 50

What stores are we going to?  I don’t know… the mall?  a bunch of stores? Well, I can’t wear a Banana Republic shirt if we’re going to Banana Republic Immediately I’m confused, huh? Careful what brand you wear shopping? Don’t take that purse  Why? We’ll probably get followed in stores With that purse we definitely will  Pull into the mall parking lot I cut between cars to get to the door faster  Damon stays in the main isle Why? Imagine some old lady opening her door The first thing she sees is me walking towards her? Assault for walking through a parking lot while black? Walking casually around store  Completely oblivious Take your hands out of your pockets!  You look suspicious, like you’re hiding something What? Suspicious just because my hands are in my pockets? Arms folded, I’m cold, Clutching bag close to my chest, to keep warm Don’t hold your bag like that! You look suspicious like you’re hiding something Huh? There’s a specific way I should hol...

“You Sound So White” -my husband said to me  Starbucks manager called 911, two black men didn’t buy coffee  Handcuffed, arrested by multiple officers, no charges filed, then released Tweet goes viral, national outrage Remember this 2018 story in Philadelphia?  Sometimes I am clueless to my privilege Huh? I know I’ve waited for a friend in Starbucks Nobody has ever called 911 I ask, “Isn’t there more to the story?”  Damon, whips his head around, “You sound so white”  Nicole and Trejan look straight at me in agreement Silence cuts me like a knife through my heart Tears come, but why? Why am I so fragile? Anger, embarrassment, shame, outrage No words explain the pain of being called out I have privilege=I must listen, not defend In the “you sound so white moments” there is NO appropriate reply  All I did was ask an innocent question! Why didn’t they wait outside until the other guy arrived? Maybe they should have bo...

I’m in pain, hear me screaming, I need to be heard Violence is happening, it needs to stop Innocent black men are being killed, THAT needs to stop How do we make all of this stop? I’m not racist….Am I? Explain to me how I’m racist, what? What are you? I’m biracial aka passing=I have white privilege What is this white privilege you’re talking about. Why do we have to label? Your normal is not my normal, wake up I’m displaying “white fragility”? What even is that? But, there must be more to the story, sitting in Starbucks, put your dog on a leash? I would never do that #whitefragility What are you doing in this neighborhood? I live here Shopping while black? wear a GAP shirt into the GAP, carry big purse=get followed around Can’t we talk about something else for a change I’m sick of hearing about racism Police lights flash, immediate fear, am I alone or is he driving I’ll drive the babysitter, or false accusations and he might never come home #whit...

I’m on your side I just don’t know what to say I don’t even see color I was taught everyone is equal I would never treat anyone bad They don’t deserve to be treated like that but there’s nothing I can do about it It’s not my fault I was born this way Whitest black person I know So well spoken Doesn’t talk like she’s black Too many of them just makes me.... uncomfortable Is that your real hair? I just had to touch it! It’s so poofy I had to know what it feels like! How do you get hair like that? Is it real? You laugh, mean well, smile, but would you pet a dog without asking the owner first? Another diversity training/tolerance training? learn how to “tolerate them”...Tolerate? How about making things equal? Instead of barely tolerating? Love to hire you but we need to interview some minorities White man can’t get a job these days, it’s reverse discrimination! I’m not being defensive, just think about it from the white side! Well, I thought we’d b...